For almost every year of marriage, there are standard traditional and modern gifts to give your spouse on your anniversary. These range from clocks to diamonds, and although they represent tradition and time, they don’t always represent what your marriage really means to both you and your loved one. So this year, instead of letting your anniversary become just another holiday, why not give her something that will remind her of your love for her and all the wonderful times you’ve had together? Here are some ideas for personalized mementos of your marriage.

1. Find a gift that is representative of your name. In most cases, your wife sacrificed her maiden name to take on yours, an action which is symbolic of her love for you. Thank her by finding a way to celebrate that name. For example, for every five years of marriage, a man with the last name of Fox would give his wife a representation of a fox, such as a small crystal figurine or a painting, symbolizing who they both were and the family they had created. If your surname is too unique for this, find something else that will represent the two of you, like setting up an appointment to have professional pictures taken so that you have visual reminders of your life together.

2. As we get older, life gets busier, and sometimes all you need to do to remind your wife you love her is to spend some precious time with her. This can be simple, like going to a romantic restaurant for a long, quiet dinner, followed by an evening stroll. Or if you want to be a bit more creative, try re-creating your first date or your marriage proposal. Take her to the same restaurant or the place where you, and let her know how glad you are that she said yes!

3. Sign up for a class that you can do together. Maybe she’s always wished that she had learned to dance, or paint. Many cities offer some type of community education program. Check your city’s website or town hall to see what kinds of classes they offer, and sign up together for it.

4. Plan your anniversary night as a surprise. Be sure she has no plans for the evening, and be in charge of deciding where you will go and what you will do. Have flowers delivered with a note that has instructions on where and when to meet you; lay out her clothes for her—maybe a fancy evening dress or just the outfit that you love to see her in. She’ll know by the effort you’re making how much you appreciate her.

5. Look at your wedding pictures! After the first few months of marriage these tend to be put away and forgotten. Pull them out, dust them off, and actually remember the day that you spent so much time, money, and effort preparing for! It will bring back laughs and memories. Choose a special picture before your anniversary and have it framed. Place it in her office at work or somewhere at home where she will see it often.

The word “anniversary” is a combination of two root words, “annus,” which means year, and “versus,” which means returning. So this year on your anniversary, return to the day of your wedding and all that led up to it with a gift that will remind both you and your wife how much you mean to each other.