Every one of us has a first date horror story. Those
stories usually involve the man you're meeting not looking at all like
he did on his picture or what you could infer from his description. Or
maybe he had really bad breath and wore a toupee that did not match his
real hair.
Those stories are funny enough, but those aren't
horror stories. Here are a few tips to make sure your first date
doesn't turn into a TRUE horror story.
Pick the place.
Choose a well-lit, very public meeting spot. Arrange to meet at a
coffee shop, or if it's summer and you have to option, a public
festival, or street sale. Not only will there be lots of people around,
but it is a good occasion to see someone outside of what may be his
natural environment.
Tell a Friend. I don't mean call a
friend to gossip about having a date -- you can do that too, of course!
-- But rather to tell them where you are going and who you are meeting.
Make sure to tell your friend or family member at what time you expect
to be home. Remember to call them after your date so they don't worry
unnecessarily.
Plan to Receive a Phone Call. Ask that
friend or family member you just told about your date to call you about
45 minutes into your date. It won't be very much of an inconvenience to
either you or your date, and should the meeting prove awkward, it will
give you an opportunity to exit gracefully, pretending some emergency.
Avoid Alcohol.
A glass of wine or a beer are always fun, but avoid them on a first
date. Alcohol, even just a little bit, will impair your judgment and
lower your inhibitions, which can lead to complications which I don't
need to explain. If you like him, there'll be plenty of opportunities
at later dates to have a drink together. If you don't, then you can
have a glass of wine by yourself when you get home.
These safety
tips are as easy to follow as they are discreet. They will not make
your date believe you are thinking that he's a creep. The goal of the
first date is nothing more than to establish whether it is worth it or
nor to have a second date. While, as the saying goes, you only get one
chance to make a first impression, do not go overboard. Smile, be
polite, enjoy yourself and above all, be yourself!