Some women are just born sexy. They can't help it and often they don't try - they just are. It's in their very nature. But it's not a guarantee for dating or relationship success. In fact, it can actually be a curse!

I know you are probably thinking, "I should be so cursed." But the key here isn't just attracting men - it's attracting the "right" men. One of my clients is a good looking woman, 37, medium build. She's not drop dead gorgeous or even model beautiful. But she's VERY HOT.

What is it that makes her so alluring? Not her clothing which is flattering, but not outrageous. No Fredericks of Hollywood. The root of her allure is her body language more than anything else. Her underlying inner knowing that she has serious sex appeal. When you look at her picture, she oozes appeal. It's in her eyes - a certain look that cannot be denied. And men want her.

Unfortunately, not the right men. She continues to meet plenty of guys, but there's a catch. They seem to have a similar "agenda." And frankly, she's tired of it. So what can a kitten to do to find her man?

Here's what I suggested. BELIEVE you are worthy of love. BELIEVE there is a good man out there for you. BELIEVE that you can attract a solid prospect based on who you are as a person, not just as a kitten. Let these beliefs soak into your subconscious mind because that is the place from which your messages to the Universe are formulated.

Think about it - this is the same process for a woman who feels she's not attractive enough. The truth is the kitten curse is the exact flip side of thinking you are not appealing. And neither thought is true. For women who hold either self-image or perspective, the focus requires believing that LOVE IS POSSIBLE FOR YOU!

Whatever you look like, remember there really is someone for everyone who wants to make the effort to find a loving partner. Attractive women can have just as difficult a time finding love as any woman does. Looks aren't always an advantage.

If you have the kitten curse, spend time reminding yourself that you are desirable for other qualities beyond being sexy. Every woman is unique with her own special gifts. Once you know deep inside that this is true, that is the body language and message you will undoubtedly send out to the Universe. And, the Universe will answer with better quality men to date.