You met a great guy, hit it off, and felt seriously attracted. When he said goodnight, he promised he'd call call you.

So far he hasn't, and you're worried. Should you:

a) Look his number up on the Internet and give him a call?

b) Call one of his friends to fish around and see how he's doing?

c) Become a fixture at the place where you met in the hopes he'll show up again?

The most successful women at love do none of these things. When a man says he'll call them, they take him at his word. They exude a winning attitude that says, "We'll see what happens."

In other words, if he calls, great. If not, well, too bad for him.

And they move on.

One woman was dating a very sought-after Irishman, and she was the envy of many, many other females who wanted to be in her shoes. He was well-employed, handsome, fiendishly clever, and he had the sexiest rogue you ever heard.

At one point, I asked her, "How's Dave doing?"

She answered, "He's okay. He's not doing very much to keep us together, so I think I'm going to have to forget about him."

Great attitude!

She maintained her attractiveness, dignity, and, sure enough, she eventually attracted another man who did everything in his power to keep them "together."

Contrast her reaction to that of the Irishman's next girlfriend. She found herself in the same position as the previous woman, but she prolonged the agony (and ensured rejection) by calling the guy, sending him cards, showing up at the laundromat where he washed his clothes, and so on. (She eventually
wised up herself, met and married another man, a most charming cardiologist.)

When you meet a promising guy, it's too easy to become fixated on him.  Don't do it! You're guaranteed to either get hurt or be taken for granted. Adopt a "we'll see what happens" attitude. Let the guy prove himself before you let yourself become vulnerable.

Besides, a "we'll see what happens" attitude is so much more alluring than "Will he call? Do you think he'll call? I wonder why he didn't call! This always happens to me! Why didn't he call? Was it my breath? Was it my hair? WHY DIDN'T HE CALL?"

Instead, exude that fetching "we'll see what happens" attitude. Then see what happens!