If you are single and you want men to desire your
company more and truly cherish you, then here are eleven dating rules
you cannot afford to break:
1. Never go to bed with a man on the
first date – As much as you would like to ravish the hunk you have a
crush on, do not let him feel that you are cheap and easy by going to
bed with him on your first date. It does not matter that he is
promising that he will respect you in the morning, or that the way he
feels about you will never change. If you do it, you run the risk of
reducing your value to him. Men are more attracted to women they spend
time to get to know, than they are to those they quickly jump into the
sack with.
2. Never call him first within the first week of your
first date – If your date asks for your phone number and does not call
you within the first week, do not call him. If a man is interested in
you, he will call you during the first week of taking you out on a
date. When you call him during that first week before he calls you, you
give him that impression that you are overly anxious. The last thing
you want is for this new person to feel that you are a little desperate
or forward.
3. Never use obscenities - If you curse like a
sailor, it will turn off your date, if you let that part of your
personality out on your first date. It is a turnoff for most men. It
certainly could ruin the chance of someone getting to know how nice you
really are on the inside.
4. Never engage in a conversation about
marriage on your first date – No matter how much of a good time you are
having with your date, do not bring up the topic of marriage, unless
your date asks about how you feel about the subject. When a woman
brings it up on a date, it creates the impression that you are on a
hunt for a husband. Nothing kills a date like a woman who comes across
as obviously interviewing men for marriage – trying to find out if they
are ready to make that serious commitment. There is a right time for
serious conversations – your first date is not the time. Get to know
your date first.
5. Never flirt with other men while you are on a
date – The cardinal sin of any first date is to flirt with other men in
the presence of your date. Do not do it. If you are trying to get your
date to see that you can attract other men, flirting with other men in
front of him is not the way to do it. It is disrespectful and conveys
that you are shallow and untrustworthy. Your date will feel that if you
have the gall to flirt now, when you are supposed to be on your best
behavior, what will happen when you get hitched up? Most men wouldn’t
want to find out.
6. Never bring up your ex-boyfriend unless he
asks you – Let your past remain in the past, unless your date wants to
find out why you broke up with your ex-boyfriend. Never compare your ex
with your date, nor refer to something someone else did as something
that your ex would do. It simply shows that you have not gotten over
him.
7. Do not ask your date how much money he makes – This is
definitely a no-no. It shows that you could be a gold-digger, and you
do not want that label. Once a man sees that you measure the value of a
man by the size of his wallet, you can bet that your date will be
turned off.
8. Do not let out the skeletons in your closet -
Don’t let it be known that you were a drug head or prostitute at one
time. Your ugly past, even though you are a new person now, can prevent
your date from getting to know who you have become after going through
a tough past. Leave the horror stories for when he gets to know you and
can easily understand and accept all of you.
9. Don’t go out of
your way to be funny, just be yourself – Don’t start clowning around;
pretending to be someone you are not. Don’t turn your date into a night
of cracking jokes or of proving to your date that you have a fantastic
sense of humor. Be yourself and you will do just fine.
10. Do not
order the most expensive meal on the menu – Ordering the most expensive
thing on the menu at a restaurant shows that you are a potential
gold-digger. It also shows that you are greedy. Men love women that are
conscious of the cost of things.
11. Do not show him you have a
voracious appetite - Just because you are famished does not mean that
you should order everything on the menu – super-sized. Most men are
turned off by women with huge appetites – men see that as not being
feminine and lady-like. Moreover, men feel that if your appetite is
this big when he has not gotten to know you, you may swallow a horse
when you really get comfortable with each other.
To find out more about what it takes to make men fall madly in love, please visit http://www.smartwomansguide.com.
Steve
Ubah is the author of Passion Keys – A Woman’s Ultimate Guide To
Unlocking The Love In A Man’s Heart. To find out how you can make your
man fall madly in love with you, please visit http://www.smartwomansguide.com
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