Can't get a second date? Starting to feel desperate
and dateless? Practice these dating techniques and have the guys
chasing you! A guide to dating that ensures you don't keep making those
first date errors.
Are you constantly not getting a call back for
a second date? Perhaps you fall into one of these categories of female
daters that scare the guys off. Have a read. Be honest with yourself,
correct your maneuvers, and follow these tips for first date success.
Are you:
1: The interrogative dater. Are you treating the first
date like an interview for the job description of your boyfriend? No
one likes to feel that they are being interrogated. Would you refuse a
second date because not all the boxes are ticked? Your dating check
list could be your problem. You may feel like you don't have all the
time in the world to figure out that the guy is not up to you, but you
still need more than one date to sort through all that. You shouldn't
treat the first date as an interview, as guys find this very
intimidating and off putting. Let things progress naturally over the
course of a couple of dates and you will end up finding out a lot more
when he lets his guard down than you would have on one date.
2:
The desperate dater. Do you start calling him after the first date? The
next day? Just for any reason? Coming over as needy (and you will,
behaving like this) will scare him off. Guys do not like feeling
suffocated. Guys like to move at their own pace. If he is going to ring
or text he will. Chasing after guys just does not work. Let him think
he is chasing you.
3: The nervous dater. Dating a new guy can be
nerve wracking. Try to be yourself on the first date. Try to be mindful
of what you do and say. Don't fall into the trap of being so anxious
that you just open your mouth and let it all come out without thinking.
Whatever you do, don't drink too much for Dutch Courage. Be mindful of
your body language and concentrate on that to keep the nerves at bay.
Coco has written a helpful article on sexy body language for the first
date if you need more information on this topic.
4: The
fraudulent dater. Be honest with your likes, dislikes and hobbies.
Sitting there and agreeing with him on everything just to get another
date will never work long term. Pretending to be something that you are
not will only work short term. If you do not voice any of your own
opinions, the guy will never get to know who you really are. You cannot
build up any trust or interest in a relationship if he is looking at a
mirror of himself. Guys like a challenge. Give him something to work on
and think about.
5: Sharing too much. Intimate problems and
ex-boyfriends are not first date topics. Guys hate discussing feelings
and emotions. They do not want to hear about your ex-boyfriend. You
will make him uncomfortable talking about these topics and he won't be
coming back. Being too emotional will make him think you are needy.
Guys want a fun first date not a psychology lecture. Leave him feeling
good and relaxed.
6: The one night stand. Guaranteed to not
progress to a long term relationship. Guys like a challenge. Guys like
to be the hunters. What is there left for him to explore? Even if you
do have the best bedroom technique he is ever going to experience, make
him wait for it. His lust interest is already engaged or you wouldn't
be on the date in the first place. Build his interest in all your other
special attributes. By increasing the anticipation he is more inclined
to hang around.
Brush up your dating techniques. Use these first date tips and get yourself a long term guy.