There are countless reasons why a younger man might
date an older woman from lust to love and many in between. Here's a
list of seven that are the most probable from this dating coach's
perspective.
1) For Lust
Maybe you're just hot and he wants you. Not such a bad thing when
you think about it. After all, nature has played a mean trick on humans
with women reaching their sexual peak later in life and men reaching it
earlier. So this is a way to balance things out! Not only that, but if
a younger man finds you attractive, whether or not you go for it, his
attention is flattering. Allow your self-esteem to rise as you feel
like the attractive, alluring woman that you really are. Enjoy it!
2) For Fun
Cyndi Lauper says "Girls just want to have fun." so go ahead and
have some fun with that younger man who could be looking for the very
same thing. Sometimes life brings you an opportunity just for the sake
of a good time. Nothing wrong with that either. That's what the movie
"How Stella Got Her Groove Back" was all about. A fling with a young
man brought Stella back to the joys of life.
3) To Escape the Ticking Bio Clock
Younger women in their 30's are often worried about their
biological clocks ticking away and with good reason. If you want to
have children, time does run out at some point. But with an older
woman, she is past thinking "family" or already has her family and so
the pressure on that young man is off. With an older woman, he can
actually skirt the whole family thing and just enjoy. And so can you.
4) For Status
Older women are more accomplished. Today many women have power jobs
and make a boatload of ka-ching. And so, just like younger women who
date older men, younger men are looking for the flip side of the
traditional equation. And let's face it, many of these "cougar-types"
are looking for what older men have known for years. Dating younger
will help keep you young and bring back the
Men have traditionally sought the company of younger women, also
known as "arm candy." Now it's your turn. If you want some candy, go
get some.
5) For Oedipus
The term for this classic psychological motivation was coined by
our friend Dr. Sigmund Freud. The Oedipus complex is actually based on
Greek mythology and a tragic play by Socrates. The briefest explanation
- when a young seeks the love of his mother - but from another woman.
Maybe he looks up to you. Maybe he appreciates your ability to nurture
and the wisdom that only time can bring. Not so terrible really. It's
actually flattering to have someone look up to you. One of the best
ways to learn life's lessons is through a mentor and as you play the
expert, you can enjoy the companionship of a younger man.
6) For Experience
Let's say you are a younger man who hasn't had a lot of women. But
you would like the short course and a teacher could really help. Bingo!
Some younger men date older women simply to gain experience. What a
service you are doing for the younger women who he'll come in contact
in his lifetime. Many people enjoy the teacher/student relationship.
Just keep it out of the real classroom and you'll be all set for a
eye-opening and inspiring situation. Plus, this type of relationship
gives you a chance to be in charge which for some is really a kick. Why
not show someone younger the ropes of romantic relationship and have
fun through all the learning.
7) For Love
Last, but not least, the guy might be dating you for LOVE. Some
younger men can't help who they fall for. He saw you, was struck by
your beauty and charm, and just fell head over heels. It happens.
Really it does. Ask Aston Kutcher and Demi Moore, Katie Couric and
Brooke Perlin, and so many others. It's all the rage in Hollywood and
for good reason. Because this May-December romance thing which was
previously frowned upon and poo-pooed, has now become acceptable.
Chemistry is something that cannot easily be explained. In addition, I
say, let's here it for those younger men who have the good sense to
fall for an older woman! You have excellent taste.
Stop fretting
about what this younger guy sees in you, or what others think, and
enjoy the attention. You deserve every flattering, delicious moment so
sit back and count your blessings.