On line dating was introduced to a mass audience with
the 1998 film, "You've got mail!" This was, perhaps, the first movie to
portray two people conducting a relationship entirely on line before
meeting each other face-to-face. We, as a society, have come a long way
with the introduction of high-tech cyber-dating.
There are a
myriad of websites that cater to folks looking for that elusive soul
mate. The process involved in meeting someone online varies from site
to site. The basic process for meeting another person online is for you
to sign on to an online dating site by entering a user name and
password that applies only to you and then filling out a profile page.
Your
profile can contain any personal or professional details you would like
to share within the site guidelines. Your information is then entered
into the site database and users have various ways of accessing your
profile just as you have access to their profiles. You can then search
for potential partners by age, gender, location and shared interests.
Online
dating services enable individuals to meet via the web in order to
strike up real life romantic relationships and the myriad of sites
cater to nearly every taste. You name it, you are likely to find a site
that serves your needs.
Even while many sites are specialized,
you will still need to practice diligence and caution. For example, you
will find sites that offer their matchmaking services for free. You may
think this is a good idea, think again.
Free sites do not usually
offer the in-depth analysis of prospects as do paid sites. The top
sites are usually those that charge a fee. They usually require all
prospects to take a scientific survey before being allowed membership.
A
downside of online dating is you may open yourself to hundreds of
unsolicited email messages. There will be many people asking for your
email address in order to continue your relationship privately, that
is, away from the online dating site. Don't fall for this. Stay in
communication through the dating sites until you are absolutely sure of
the person on the other end.
Scammers will use your email to
flood you with unsolicited emails. You may want to get a free email
account to use solely for your on line dating communication. You can
always delete it if you become a victim of unwanted emails.
Online
dating sites are even used by all manner of con artists. Some sites do
not have adequate security measures in place. These sites have no way
of verifying the true identity of members. So, don't jump into a
relationship in a hurry. Keep it friendly and casual until you know for
certain that the person you find attractive is real.
On rare
occasions, a female who has met up with a male via online dating has
been assaulted. Know how to defend yourself. There are many good
reasons, even outside of online dating, to take a self-defense course.
One good safety tip is to have someone go with you to that first date
and simply observe from a distance to make sure all is going according
to plan. It's better to be safe than make yourself vulnerable.
Provided
that you always proceed with caution and take the necessary steps to
keep yourself safe you should not have any serious problems with your
dating experiences. There are definitely dangers associated with online
dating but there are also ways to avoid them. On that word of caution,
if you have been reluctant to go online and meet someone, put your fear
aside and live a little.
Internet dating is the current hot trend
because of the busy lives of most people because it works. There are
thousands of happy couples who would not be together if it was not for
this new medium of meeting people. In fact, two women in my wife's
workplace both found mates on line and both are living happily.
With
the current success in on line dating, on line dating is experiencing a
growth that is so huge, no one could have predicted it. With everything
form Goth dating sites to 30-plus dating sites, there is an online
dating site for everyone.
Happy dating!
Jim DeSantis is a retired investigative journalist. Jim publishes a free ebook, Online Dating Bliss in 5 Easy Steps - here, that covers the positives and negatives of on line dating. No email or signup required. Jim also edits a blog about Relationships - here that provides more free information.