Everyone who meets someone online is excited about
getting to know them better. If there is a connection, you want to know
right away. You should avoid asking a thousand questions however and
stick to general topics at first. If you do start asking questions,
even though you are not trying to, you might seem overbearing. You need
to be patient and take things slowly. This will ensure that you create
a natural environment in which you can evaluate if you have a
connection or not.
Personal Questions
Stay away from
asking personal questions. You can ask about your date’s family or
friends, but don’t even think about asking about personal family issues
or things like that. Anything personal your date wants to reveal is
fine, but don’t try to pry. You should seem interested, but not crazy!
So, be sure to keep the conversation on personal issues very general.
Ask about their job, their favorite things, and what they love to do in
their spare time. This will be a good place to start.
Physical Questions
If
you have not met each other yet, you might want to be careful about how
many physical questions you ask your online date. You may ask for a
photo, but don’t try to ask them their weight or height. Anything you
can’t determine in the photo, you will see for yourself when you meet.
If you start asking really in depth physical questions, your date will
only think you are shallow.
Peter Portero also contributes dating research to a UCLA research study on online matrimonials site called Shaadi Bliss.